Love and Sex Are Alike

Once upon a time I found myself travelling with Prince Charming, with my heart embroiled in happiness. Suddenly the Prince asked me:

"Thillai, what is the difference between sex and love?"

"None," I responded rapidly and with confidence.

"I knew that would be your answer," said the prince with a bit of condescension.

That moment, tears began sliding out of my eyes silently, and I felt great gratitude to the darkness of the night which kept his eyes from noticing my tears. The years went by and, but that question and the answer that followed never abandoned me.

Today I knew I gave the correct, most perfect answer.

However, if I had given the right answer, why then did I cry?

Because my spirit, my higher self, had known that had been one of those decisive moments in life in which I denied my truth.

I have done that many times. For example, even as a child I liked things that were pretty and "expensive". But my mother criticized me for wanting expensive things. So  when I went shopping I began looking for deals, for "prices of bananas."

Still, why was the answer I gave Prince Charming correct?

We live in a Christian culture that denies pleasure. Pleasure is a sin.

Eve had been the caster of the original sin, the Apple of Love/Forbidden Fruit.

Then there is the mother of the great savior, the one who really loves. How many times have I heard "Jesus loves you". But she had him as a virgin, which means without sex.

You may tell me, "But Thillai, I am an atheist, I don't believe in God. I don't even follow a religion"?

Well, I don't care. The majority of books that we read, the programs that entertain us, and our culture as a whole is based on the idea that a good woman is a saint-like woman.

I wanted to be good, and with this desire to be good in the eyes of society, we end up separating sex from love.

And with this separation in mind we marry.

When women separate sex and love, they tend to assume the roles of mothers and daughters, the ones who listen and cradle, not the ones who give pleasure.

However, men don't need a new mother, does they? They've already gotten one. They don't need a daughter, they make daughters. They do not need a nurse, they contract a nurse.

Men, too, marry with that mentality, and for pleasure they find prostitutes or mistresses.

Today I tell the prince:
 "I know you would ask this question."
Because if you think about it, I know I am different from all the other women. I don't separate love and sex. So I make love/sex and this love/sex becomes spiritual and powerful."

After we finish the act, my body remains in a state of total pleasure for more than thirty minutes (with orgasm being followed by orgasm, being followed by orgasm).

Research tells us that many women don't experience orgasm. Since the only reference about this must be orgasm itself, they never talk about it since they've never known it.


I wish I could shake them to the truth, that sex/love can heal everything and manifest everything.

William Reich's proof of the power of sexual Energy.  This energy creates life. This energy can really cure cancer.

But because I can't change the world. I decide be Happy

I am in love and I am sexuality.

I gain much pleasure and I give much pleasure.